Minggu, 22 Januari 2017

CONTROLLING DISCUSSION


Group discussions occur in many different formats – from very informal ones between friends to highly structured and challenging discussions included as part of a selection process.
In both cases, there are a number of specific skills that we can help our students develop to become better able to contribute effectively to group discussions.
·         Why teach group discussion skills?
·         Types of discussion
·         Useful sub-skills for students
·         Setting up group discussions
·         Giving and encouraging feedback
·         Conclusion

 Why teach group discussion skills?


Developing group discussion skills is useful for everyday life as we regularly find ourselves having discussions amongst friends, family and colleagues. These may vary from very informal chats about day-to-day things, to more serious topics, for example a discussion about a recent news story or a problem that needs to be solved.


·         Additionally, group discussions are increasingly being used in the job market during interviews and selection procedures. These can take a variety of formats, but the key skills remain very similar.
·         Last but not least, group discussions offer an opportunity for extended speaking (and listening!) practice by all of the contributors. Group discussion practice and skill development is therefore useful for all students.
 Types of discussion

There are a variety of different types of discussions that occurNATURALLYhttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items/it/img/arrow-10x10.png and which we can recreate in the classroom. These include discussions where the participants have to:

·         Make decisions (e.g. decide who to invite to a party and where to seat them)
·      Give and / or share their opinions on a given topic (e.g. discussing beliefs about the effectiveness of capital punishment)
·         Create something (e.g. plan and make a poster as a medium for feedback on a language course)
·         Solve a problem (e.g. discussing the situations behind a series of logic problems)

Some discussion topics may fall into more than one of these categories, but it is useful to consider a variety of formats to which the students can apply the skills they are learning.


Useful sub-skills for students
There are a number of different sub-skills which students will need to be able to successfully and effectively participate in a group discussion. Students need to develop the ability to:

Analyse
This skill can be developed by giving students the topic individually and asking them to brainstorm or mind-map all of the possible sub-topics they could speak about. The students can then swap their notes and assess or analyse the relevance of each of the sub-topics their partner has included. Together, the students then draw up a fresh list or mind-map and discuss how the sub-topics might be linked together, along with examples or reasons for any arguments they might have.

Persuade
This skill comes in useful when students need to make decisions on how to do something (e.g. which candidate should get a job). A fun activity to develop this skill is to give groups of students this topic and ask them to decide on the profile of the perfect candidate, creating a list of 7 adjectives. The students are then re-grouped and asked to persuade the other members of the group that their selection is the best while compiling a second, negotiated list. The group members who retain the most from their original lists are the winners. Note down useful phrases that you hear the students using while doing this task and discuss these at the end for future reference.

Control emotions
This can be practised by giving the students a fairly controversial topic, such as ‘Friends are moreIMPORTANThttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items/it/img/arrow-10x10.png than family’ and asking the students to decide whether they agree, disagree or have no opinion, making notes on their main arguments to support their viewpoint. Divide the students into groups ensuring that there is a mix of views within each group. Explain that for this discussion, the aim is to keep their voices low and try to control their emotions as far as possible. Monitor and give feedback on these areas.

Support
One of the most important things for this skill is for students to learn when it is and isn’t appropriate to interrupt and how to do it. Very often students will talk over each other in an effort to get their point across and forget to listen.

To practise this, you can get your students to make a list in small groups of when it is and isn’t appropriate to interrupt other speakers. They should include things like ‘not appropriate during the middle of a point, ifTHE SPEAKERhttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items/it/img/arrow-10x10.png has not said very much previously, or when you are feeling angry and liable to say something you’ll regret’. It is appropriate when the speaker has been dominating the discussion for too long, what the speaker is saying is completely irrelevant to the topic, or you don’t understand the point he / she has made’.

You can then give them or elicit a list of phrases which they might use to interrupt politely (e.g. ‘Can i just add something here?’, ‘Sorry I’d just like to clarify something,’ etc.) The students then write five of these on slips of paper (one per slip) and have a group discussion on a given topic. The aim is to use all of the language on their slips. When they have used a phrase, they put the slip in the middle of theTABLEhttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items/it/img/arrow-10x10.png. The other students in the group judge whether the interruption was appropriate / polite. If not, they take the slip back and try again.





Use functional language
Depending on the types of group discussions that you plan to do with your class, it is useful to draw up a list of useful functional language for the students to refer to. This could include phrases for functions such as ‘Giving reasons’, ‘Giving your opinion’, ‘Agreeing and disagreeing’, etc. You can either make up the list yourself and distribute it or get the students to do this. For each group discussion, you can then refer them to the appropriateSECTIONhttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items/it/img/arrow-10x10.png of the list and give them a few moments to consider the language before beginning the discussion.

Setting up group discussions
There are several key things to consider when setting up group discussions in the classroom to ensure that they run successfully.


·         Give the students some planning time either individually or in small groups. Don’t just give them the topic and say ‘go’! It is often useful to discuss some associated vocabulary or functional language that they might find useful
·         Choose topics which you are confident your students will find interesting.
·         Get them to brainstorm some ideas for discussions they would like to do and use this as a starting point
·         Ensure a balance between input and practice
·         Use a variety of styles / types
·         Vary group size and procedure


Some companies do selection group discussions with very large groups of people – over ten in some cases. If your students will be facing these types of group discussions in the future make sure they get some practice doing them. It can also be useful to mix classes of students so they have practice doing discussions with people they don’t already know.


·         Encourage group discussions outside class time

Give students some extra feedback forms to use to give each other input on how they perform in group discussions outside of class.


Giving and encouraging feedback

Feedback can take several forms and it is a good idea to vary the way it is given. Students can observe each other doing group discussions and give each other feedback on the specific areas of input that you have covered (ideally using a feedback form that you have created).


·         Additionally, students can do a ‘Reflective group feedback exercise’ where at the end of the group discussion they discuss how effective each of the participants was during the discussion. Again, giving them some focused questions to guide this stage will help them.
·         You could also try video-taping the group discussions and playing SECTIONShttp://cdncache-a.akamaihd.net/items/it/img/arrow-10x10.png of these back to the class to analyse. Some students find this extremely useful.
·         Finally, monitor the groups yourself and make notes for feedback on whole groups or individual performances. Keeping a record of these will help you and the students to see where they have improved. 

Conclusion

As we have seen, group discussions can take a variety of formats and are useful for all types of students. They can be done in preparation for job interviews or as extended speaking practice simply to increase fluency. 

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Amy Lightfoot, British Council, India


INVITATIONS AND OFFERS

Making invitations

Berikut kata-kata yang bisa anda gunakan saat mengundang seseorang:
Would you like to...?
I would be pleased if you could...
Would you care to...?
Could you come to...?
Shall we come to...?
Why don’t you come to...?
I would be delighted if you...

Accepting invitations

Berikut kata-kata yang bisa anda gunakan saat menerima undangan seseorang:
Sure. Why not?
Thank you for inviting me.
I’d like to come.
With pleasure.
All right.
That would be very nice.
Sure. I’m coming.

Declining invitation

Berikut kata-kata yang bisa anda gunakan saat menolak undangan seseorang:
I’d like to, but...
Unfortunately. I can’t.
I’m so sorry. I don’t think i can.
Thank you, but i can.
Thank you for inviting me, but...

Contoh dialog invitations

Berikut contoh dialog bahasa inggris yang bisa anda gunakan saat mengundang orang lain. Dialog ini menceritakan tentang indra yang mengundang anya menonton bioskop bersama. Semoga bermanfaat.

Indra : hi, anya. Have you seen the conjuring movie?
Anya : hi, indra. I have not seen that movie. Why?
Indra : would you like to see the conjuring movie with me tonight?
Anya : unfortunately. I can’t because i am scared horror movie.
Indra : okay if you are scared horror movie. Shall we come to fireworks party in the downtown?
Anya : when it happen?
Indra : tonight, dear. How?
Anya : really?
Indra : yeah, if you can.
Anya : with pleasure, ndra. I like fireworks very much.
Indra : okay, i will pick you up at 8 pm.
Anya : thank you, ndra.
How to make offers in english?
It is common that english speakers make offers in conversations in order to be polite and helpful. When they do so they use these expressions:
Can i… ?
Shall i… ?
Would you like … ?
How about ...?



Making Offers:

Can
I
Help you?
Shall
Get you some juice?
Would you like
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How about
Some pizza?
Examples:
  • "can i help you?"
  • "shall i open the window for you?"
  • "would you like another cup of coffee?"
  • "would you like me to clean the board?"
  • "how about a juice? "
Remember:
  • Shall, can and will are followed by the verb without to.
    Example:
    "can i help you?"
    "shall i bring you the mobile
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  • Shall is more formal than can.
  • Would you like… is followed either by a noun, or by the verb with to.
    Example:
    "would you like some tea ?"
    "would you like to drink some coffee?
Responding to offers:

Accepting
Declining
Yes please. I'd like to.
That would be very kind of you.
Yes please, that would be lovely.
Yes please, i'd love to.
If you wouldn't mind.
If you could.
Thank you, that would be great.
It's ok, i can do it myself.
Don't worry, i'll do it.
No, thanks
no, thank you
Examples:
  • "can i help you?"
    "no thanks, i'm just having a look." (with a shop assistant.)
  • "can i help you?"
    "do you know where the post office is."
  • "shall i help you with your maths problem?"
    "yes, please. That would be very nice of you."
  • "would you like a cup of tea?"
    "no thanks." or, "no thank you."
  • "would you like another piece of cake?"
    "yes please, that would be nice ."
    "yes please, i'd love one."
  • "would you like me to do the the ironing for you?"
    "if you wouldn't mind."
    "if you could." 
  • "i'll do the washing, if you like."
    "it's ok, i can do it."
    "don't worry, i'll do it."
    "thank you, that would be great."




TOEFL, TOEIC, IELTS and TEFL



TOEFL

TOEFL singkatan dari Test of English as a Foreign Language yaitu tes bahasa Inggris sebagai bahasa asing. TOEFL dipakai untuk mengukur kemampuan seseorang dalam bahasa Inggris. TOEFL diperuntukan bagi mereka yang hendak sekolah ke negara-negara English-American, seperti Amerika Serikat contohnya. Ada tiga macam pilihan tes:

1)    PBT (Paper Based Test), yaitu kamu mengerjakan tes TOEFL di atas kertas. Materi tes biasanya meliputi listening, reading, dan structure.

2)    CBT ( COMPUTERBased Test), yaitu kamu mengerjakan tes TOEFL langsung di komputer. Materi tes biasanya meliputi listening, reading, structure dan ada tambahan writing.

3)    IBT (Internet Based Test), yaitu tes TOEFL kamu mengerjakan tes TOEFL langsung di komputer yang terhubung ke internet. Materi tes biasanya meliputi listening, reading, structure, writing dan ada tambahan speaking.

Adapun rentang skor TOEFL sebagai berikut.

  • Skor TOEFL PBT: 310 – 677.
  • Skor TOEFL CBT: 30 – 300
  • Skor TOEFL IBT: 8 – 120.

Skor TOEFL berlaku selama 2 tahun. Jika lewat dari 2 tahun, kamu harus mengambil lagi tes TOEFL. Untuk bisa mengajukan beasiswa kuliah di luar negeri, skor TOEFL kamu minimal harus 550 (PBT).

TOEIC

TOEIC adalah singkatan dari Test of English for International Communication, yaitu tes bahasa Inggis untuk komunikasi internasional. TOEIC lebih khusus diperuntukan orientasi pekerjaan. Jika kamu ingin bekerja di luar negeri atau perusahaan asing di Indonesia, maka kamu harus memiliki sertifikasi TOEIC.

Materi tes TOEIC hanya listening dan reading. Tipe soal-soal TOEIC biasanya mengarah ke bisnis. Adapun rentang Skor TOEIC adalah 10 – 990.

Agar kamu dapat bekerja di luar negeri, usahakan skor TOEIC kamu lebih dari 450.

IELTS

IELTS singkatan dari International English Language Testing System, yaitu program tes untuk menguji kemahiran dalam berbahasa Inggris.IELTS biasanya digunakan untuk mengurus visa luar negeri, studi/sekolah ke negara-negara English-British (seperti Inggris dan Australia misalnya), pindah kewarganegaraan, dsb.

Ada dua versi IELTS: Academic Version (versi akademik) dan General Training Version (pelatihan umum):

Versi akademik diperuntukan mereka yang akan masuk perguruan tinggi dan para profesional seperti dokter atau perawat yang akan bekerja di negara pengguna British English.
Versi pelatihan umum diperuntukan mereka yang akan bekerja atau keperluan imigrasi (seperti pindah kewarganegaraan).
Materi tes IELTS ada 4, yaitu:

1)    listening (30 menit ),

2)    reading (1 jam),

3)    writing (1 jam), dan

4)    speaking (12-15 menit).

Secara keseluruhan, tes IELTS membutuhkan waktu sekitar 3 jam.

Rentang skor tes adalah IELTS: 1 – 9. Jika akan digunakan untuk keperluan sekolah ke Inggris Australia, Kanada, Selandia Baru maka skor IELTS yang dibutuhkan adalah 5,5 ke atas.

TEFL

“TEFL” is the acronym for Teaching English as a Foreign Language, or simply, English language instruction for non-native speakers. Also known as Teaching English to Speakers of Other Languages (TESOL), English Language Teaching (ELT), and teaching ESL (English as a Second Language). The field of TEFL/TESOL represents one of the fastest growing educational fields in the world. The field presents thousands of excellent professional opportunities for teaching English abroad in all corners of the globe to native and fluent English speakers who earn their TEFL/TESOL certification.

In practical terms, when these terms are applied to the field of teaching English abroad, there is little or no difference between “TEFL” and “TESOL.” They are both acronyms that essentially mean the same thing: teaching the English language to non-native speakers. Likewise, in the vast majority cases, when it comes to teaching English abroad, a “TEFL certification” and a “TESOL certification” are the same and the terms are interchangeable.

On a more technical level, TESOL (Teachers of English to Speakers of Other Languages) is the term applied to the teaching of English to non-native speakers in native English speaking countries, so those who will earn degrees and work domestically in the field in the UK, Canada, Australia, Ireland, New Zealand, and South Africa and US will typically use the term “TESOL.”

– See more at: https://www.internationalteflacademy.com/faq/bid/102043/What-is-TEFL-and-What-is-TEFL-Certification#sthash.riTQyJ7C.dpuf

TEFL or TESOL Certification and requirements for getting a job teaching English abroad

To Teach English as a Foreign Language in a foreign country (non-native English speaking country), a TEFL Certification is typically required as schools and language institutes want to hire teachers who have received proper training. You don’t need to possess a degree in education, prior teaching experience, or even a college degree to get paid to teach English abroad. Private language schools abroad want to hire people who have received a certain degree of professional level training. Internationally recognized standards hold that professional-level TEFL certification must meet certain standards established by leading bodies in the field.

These standards include:

At least 100 hours of coursework;
At least 6-20 hours of practicum (live practice teaching and observation with actual non-native English SPEAKER AND NOT role-playing with fellow TEFL classmates);
An accredited curriculum from a recognized, independent organization within the field;
Instruction provided by a qualified instructor (who has an equivalent to a Master Degree in TESOL or related field);
It is also recommended that you take your TEFL certification course from an organization that provides comprehensive job search guidance.


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https://www.internationalteflacademy.com/faq/bid/102043/What-is-TEFL-and-What-is-TEFL-Certification


VISUAL INFORMATION

Present your new concept or idea in visual form instead of as boring text. See the power of setting the context with a diagram before providing details to your audience.

Visual information challenge :
If you are business presenter, you would have realized by now that it is not easy to explain a new concept or idea to an audience. No matter how good you are with your words, you can’t avoid losing a few people in the room. In fact, the more you talk-the more you confuse the audience.

The reasons for the confusion are :
  • the way you see your idea is not the way your audience sees it. They don’t have the context you have.
  • Your audience may not know your subject as deeply as you know it.
So, they can’t visualize the relationship between your thoughts as easily as you do. Result – they either understand you wrongly or switch off.

What is the way out?
Draw your concept. Make it visual and see the bulbs glowing in your audience’s faces.
You don’t have to be a Da Vinci or Michelangelo to sketch your thoughts. Visualizing an idea has more to do with your thought clarity than about your drawing skills.In this article, we will see a simple makeover of a concept slide and realize the power of idea visualization.
Here is the ‘usual slide’ we will work on:

Here are our comments on the slide:
  • While the use of a high resolution photo makes the slide look attractive, it doesn’t help audience understand the content of the slide any better
  • The slide appears too busy with tons of text. This can put off the audience fast
  •  Audience can’t visualize the relationship between concessions and risks even after going through the slide fully
Let us see how we can organize the information and visualize the relationship to make the slide visual.

Step 1: Establish the core relationship using a simple diagram
Diagrams are easily the most effective way to explain the relationship in a concept. If we take our example case, the relationship between risk and concessions can be visualized as follows:

This simple diagram shows – ‘Extent of concessions given to the customer reduces as the amount of risk brought in by the customer increases’.

Step 2: Flesh out the details
Once you establish the core relationship with your diagram, you can flesh out the relevant details. In this case, the details are – the type of concessions we offer and the kind of risks brought in by the customer.
So, the revised slide would look like:

Remember, it is the context that lends meaning to details.
So, whenever you want to explain a new concept to your audience, take a little time to draw the core concept first. Stay there till you feel confident that everyone in the audience‘got’ the relationship shown in the diagram. Then and only then you add details.
This simple trick should help you explain any new idea more effectively to your audience.



MAKING SMALL TALK AND DEVELOPING A CONVERSATION


Make yourself approachable, offer a small compliment, and find common ground with the other person. Reveal something interesting about yourself, and ask something about him or her in return. Show your interest by actively listening and asking more questions. If things go well, don't hesitate bring up hanging out again!

Method1
Make the Person Comfortable

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Have approachable body language. If you want to make a person feel comfortable, the best thing to do is to have an "open stance" and to direct your body toward that person without being too forceful. Just make eye contact, don't cross your arms, and face your shoulders toward that person. This will make the person feel like you're giving him all of your attention and that you're not just lukewarm about talking to him. Maintain the right distance from the person.
·         Put away your phone. There's nothing more annoying than talking to a person who is constantly checking his cell.
·         Though you should look eager to talk to the person, don't look too eager. Don't lean in so close that you overwhelm the person or scare him away. Many people are turned off by a close-tal
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Give a friendly greeting. If you're seeing someone you already know, just say hello and greet her by her name: "Hi, Jen, it's good to see you." This is simple and direct and lets the person know you're excited to talk. If you don't know the person, introduce yourself first so you feel more confident and in control of the conversation. Just say, "Hi, I'm Marla, what's your name?" Repeat the person's name when she tells it to you, and she'll feel more special.
·         Remember to smile and pay attention to the person when you greet her. Don't make it look like you're just killing time until your real friends come along.

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Keep things light and positive. Conversations are just as much about an exchange of energy as an exchange of information. To make great conversation and great small talk, you should keep things light, fun, and positive. If you're upbeat, ready to smile at a moment's notice, and laugh over things that aren't that funny, then you'll make the other person want to keep talking to you -- even if you're only talking about your favorite brands of cereal. [1]
·         It's true: it may be hard to keep things light and fun when you've had a really bad day or bad week. But remember that if you're making small talk, then this person is not your closest friend, so you should avoid talking about anything too negative or the other person will be turned off.

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Start with a small compliment. Just a simple, "I love your shoes -- where did you get them?" can get you into a fun conversation about shoe shopping. Even if the compliment doesn't lead anywhere, it will still make the person feel more appreciated before you start discussing other subjects. You can also use this move earlier, as a way to actually introduce yourself to someone.
Method2
Start Talking

1
Find common ground. Common ground doesn't mean that you and the other person are both die-hard horseback riders. It can just be as the fact that you've both had to deal with a lot of bad weather that week. Anything that the person can relate to and that establishes a connection, however tenuous, can be considered common ground. And just because you don't want to talk about the weather, remember that the "small stuff" can lead you to talk about the things that matter to you. Here are some ways to establish common ground:
·         "Professor Hoffer is hilarious."
·         "Ashley throws the most amazing parties."
·         "Can you believe all of this rain?"
·         "I just love coming to Arbor Cafe."

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Reveal something about yourself. Once you've established some common ground, you can use it to elaborate and say something a bit more personal. You shouldn't say something so personal that it freaks the person out, like, "I've actually been in love with Professor Hoffer for the last five years," but you can ease in to talking about yourself just a bit more. Here are some things to say to follow up with the last statements:[2]
·         "He's the best teacher I ever had. He's basically the reason I'm an English major."
·         "I actually met Ashley last year, when Ben took me to her Great Gatsby party."
·         "The rain is just awful. I'm training for a marathon and had to do my long runs on the treadmill -- it's the worst."
·         "Whenever I'm at this cafe, I just really feel like I'm in the zone. Maybe it's the intense drip-coffee -- but seriously, I feel like I can work for hours here."

3
Engage the other person. Now that you've established common ground and have revealed something about yourself, it's time to engage the other person and get her talking by asking her to reveal some information about herself. Don't ask anything too personal, like asking about the person's health, religion, or political views. Just keep it light and fun and ask open-ended questions about the person's interests, job, or surroundings. Here's how you can engage the other person:
·         "How about you? Are you an English major, or are you here for Professor Hoffer's crazy stories?"
·         "Did you go to that party, or is this your first time here? It was fun, but I drank too many mint juleps."
·         "How about you? Has the rain kept you from doing anything fun this week?"
·         "Do you come here to do some work, or are you just reading for fun?"

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Follow up with a question or statement. The person's response will influence whether you follow up with a question, a statement, or a joke. Try to find a balance between questions and statements. Too many questions will make the person feel like he's being interrogated, and too many statements won't give the person room to talk. Here's how you can keep these conversations going:
·         Other person: "I'm an English major too. I've always wanted to be an English major, but Hoffer's an added bonus for sure."
·         You: "Oh, really? What are you thinking of doing with that? It's great to meet another person in this highly lucrative field."
·         Other person: "I couldn't go to that party, but I did go to her Cinco de Mayo party last month. That party was crazy."
·         You: "It really was! I knew you looked familiar. How do you know Ashley? Isn't she nuts?"
·         Other person: "I don't mind the rain so much, but it made it hard for me to walk my dog! That was so annoying."
·         You: "You have a dog too? I have a little poodle named Stella. Do you have a picture of your dog?"
·         Other person: "I'm just here to read for fun. I can't believe I've gone this long without reading The Catcher in the Rye."
·         You: "I love that book! Some people think it's overrated, but I completely disagree."

5
Notice your surroundings. Once you start really talking to the person and get your back-and-forth banter going, you can also look around for cues for what to talk about next. You can notice anything from what the person is wearing or holding, to a sign on the wall that may apply to both of you. Here are some things you can say:
·         "Sweet 9ers jersey. That one's a classic. Have you been a fan for long?"
·         "You ran the New York Marathon too? Which year? I don't know what I did with my t-shirt."
·         "What do you think about this a cappella concert tonight? I've seen these flyers all over campus, but I don't know if I want to go."
·         "Ah, the American Pageant. That book taught me everything I needed to know about American History. Is that class as easy as it used to be?"



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Take the time to listen. Really listening to things that the person says can help you pinpoint new common ground and to steer the conversation in a more fun or productive direction. The person may make a small comment that's tangential to your question or topic, so keep your ears open and see if something the person says can trigger a new line of conversation. Here are some example of how two people can pick up on cues and steer a conversation in a new direction to connect on a deeper level:
·         You: "I actually met Ashley on a Spring Break trip. We all went to Mexico with a bunch of friends."
·         Other person: "I remember her telling me about the trip! I was actually helping her improve her Spanish for it, but I doubt she really used it much -- unless you count the phrase piƱa colada."
·         You: "You speak Spanish? That's awesome. You could have helped me prepare for my study abroad trip to Madrid. My Spanish was okay by the end, but I could have used some help!"
·         Other person: "I love Madrid. My grandmother actually still lives there, so I visit her almost every summer. She takes me to the Prado every Sunday."
·         You: "Madrid is like my favorite city! The El Grecos in the Prado are to die for."
·         Other person: "You like the El Grecos? I'm more of a Goya fan."
·         You: "Oh, really? You know, there's actually a new movie about Goya coming out next week -- I think Ethan Hawke's in it! Want to go?"
·         Other person: "Of course!"
Method3
Finish Strong

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Open up (but not too much). By the end of the conversation, you could reveal something more about yourself, however small, whether it's your obsession with your cat, your passion for yoga, or just your thoughts on your favorite band's new album. Have the person walk away knowing something about you, which could make you connect on a deeper level and make the person think you weren't just shooting the breeze.
·         You probably shouldn't reveal your thoughts on the meaning of life, lost love, or death in a round of small-talk. Just reveal something about yourself and wait to develop a deeper bond before you get too personal.
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If it's going well, mention hanging out again. If you've really enjoyed talking to the person, whether you're developing a crush or a friend crush, you can say that you really liked talking to this person about a certain subject and ask if the person wants to hang out again or get the person's number. Or you can just mention a place where you both will be. Here are some things you can say:
·         "I'm really serious about seeing that new movie with you. Can I get your number so we can work out the details later?"
·         "I've never met someone who loves The Bachelor as much as I do. My roommate and I have the best viewing parties every Monday night -- can I get your number so I can send you the info?"
·         "Maybe I'll see you at Ashley's next party? I hear she won't let you in the door if you're not wearing a real toga, so it'll be something to see."

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Say goodbye nicely. After you've made small talk but have to go, whether it's to get back to class or to talk to someone else at the party, you should make the person feel important, not like you were just paying your dues by talking to him. Here are some ways to end the conversation politely:[3]
·         "It's been great talking to you. I'll let you know how that paella recipe works out for me."
·         "I'd love to talk more about Spain, but I haven't said hi to Nina yet, and it looks like she's about to leave."
·         "Oh, there's my best friend, Kelley. Have you met her yet? Come on, I'll introduce you."
·         "I wish I could keep talking to you, but AP Calculus is calling my name. I'm sure I'll see you soon, though."